In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question “What kind of man are you looking for?” She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, “Do you really want to know?” Reluctantly, he said, “Yes.”
She began to expound… “As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can’t do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man…or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’”
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought and stated, “I am not referring to money, I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.
She said, “I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked… believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don’t need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, ‘You are asking a lot.
She replied, “I’m worth a lot.”
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People keep telling me that I fall in love too easily.
That I should protect my heart, that I shouldn’t wear my heart on my sleeve.
I fall in love at least 20 times a day.
I fall in love with the sky and the sun and the flowers and my children.
I fall in love with smiles, with music on the radio and with french fries and Dr. Pepper.
I fall in love with the sound of laughter, blue jeans, accents.
Sometimes I fall in love with complete strangers, especially the ones holding hands & kissing in public.
The ones who aren’t afraid to be in love with the idea of being in love either.
I don’t mind the pain of unrequited love so much, because I think they’re wrong.
Love looks good on me.
- I didn't write this though but I identify with it. ♥
Originally written for Glamour magazine back in 2007, this article became a popular mail chain letter and was given the title, "Maya Angelou's Best Poem Ever."
By 30, you should have:
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better.
By 30, you should know:
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. How to take control of your own birthday.
9. That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30.
September 2.
I turned a year older and am now officially an adult. Being 21 has its perks and some disadvantages, too. For perks: I get to go to trips, slumber parties, night outs and other gigs without having to beg my father for his permission. I get to decide on how I want to go about some events or certain things on my own. But after only a few days of being 21, I realized that I've got a lot on my shoulders now. For starters, my father is already nagging me to look for a job and start earning my own money. Being 21, means that I'm only 9 years away from being 30 and that I have to be serious, start thinking more about how my future is going to be and if I want to start my own family in the next few years. Being 21 means 21 times more responsibilities. Period.
September 3.
I became an officially registered nurse after taking oath as a professional nurse. A member of the Board of Nursing said in her speech that becoming a nurse was just a start and that we need to excel in whatever it is that we are put in, as for my case, strive to become the best nurse that I can be.
Today.
Submitted my first ever professional resume to Mercy Community Hospital, the very hospital that my brother works in. I never really liked the idea of working in the same hospital where my brother is working but with the current oversupply of nurses in the Philippines and hospitals on freeze hiring, it leaves a new nurse like me with not enough option but to just grab whatever opportunity comes my way. As they say, beggars can't be choosers.